Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Soon we will know what it's like to be the only Muslim household in town......

Asalaamu Alaikam,

As some of you already know, my hubby and I are living in a small town in the middle of nowhere in Mississippi. Mississippi can be quite "homogenous" when it comes to "culture." Although ethnically speaking, whites are not the only ones here, they pretty much call the shots, so you really only get a feeling of being surrounded by white people. White Baptist Christian people. In pick-up trucks. Loud pick-up trucks. Drinking beer all weekend long. And shouting at each other when they are no more than a foot apart.

*sigh*

Anyways.......

So, up until now, there have been two "Muslim households" in this town: My hubby was one of them (he lived here for 2 yrs before we met and married), and the other was that of his friend and his wife and their children. His friend is also a doctor, and was working on his requirements to get his Green Card, which he received around the beginning of this year. His wife went to school to be a doctor as well, but had not done her training (she got sidetracked by a little thing called "getting married and having two kids"). Now that her husband is "free to move about the country," she will start her training. They will be leaving on the 29th of this month (May).

Alhamdulilah, I am happy for her, because she got with a hospital in Chicago (they use a matching system, and applicants interview at hospitals that are interested in them, and then once all the interviews are done, they "match" to a hospital. It's very different from the way us "normal people" apply for jobs!). They've never lived in Chicago (her husband trained in Manhattan, which is how he knows my husband), but I think they are really going to enjoy it, inshAllah. Chicago has a large, diverse, and active Muslim community, mashAllah, and I enjoyed the time I spent in the Chicago area.

So, as of the 29th of May, my hubby and I will officially be the "only Muslim household" in this podunk town. Yippee! I am sooooo excited! Can't you tell?? :P

The Bible banging gets to be a bit much here, as well. For all the "religiosity" here, I still don't see people adhering to their faith very much. I think that's why the whole act of "Bible banging" gets at me so much. It seems to be for nothing more than show. Oh, that and to condemn anyone who happens to not be Christian.

Oh, and for the record: rednecks make me very nervous. I feel very uneasy around them. After all, the KKK is made up predominantly of rednecks. This place is crawling in rednecks, and I am pretty sure there are some "closet klansmen" hiding out.

I just had to vent a bit......... :D



Friday, May 15, 2009

Salafis/Wahhabis/Fanatics/Extremists - Get over yourselves!

That's all. Just wanted to say that.

There... I feel better.....

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Someone actually found it insulting that anonymous comments will not be allowed on my blog!

Asalaamu Alaikam,

How silly is that, really? I mean, all I am saying is that people need to identify themselves, and cannot hide behind a veil of secrecy. If you are willing to say something hateful or degrading, you should be willing to identify yourself. That is, if you feel that what you are saying is right, and not hateful or degrading. The only reason why someone would want to hide their identity would be that they are feeling shame, and know that what they are doing is not right.

It doesn't really matter when you think of it. If you are Muslim, and truly believe in the teachings of Islam, then you should know that Allah knows all that you do. When you insult or hurt someone, even in secrecy, Allah knows this. You cannot hide your bad behavior from Allah.

Perhaps they think that in hiding their identities they have some power. They do not have any power, and only show what cowards they truly are. They are showing clearly that if they were face to face with us, they wouldn't dare to say the things that they say in anonymity online. This is poor etiquette. Trust me when I tell you that anything that I say here, I will openly say in "real life" (I dislike that term "real life," because I do not see where the internet is not part of real life, and the same rules of etiquette should apply).

Anyways, I just thought that I would share the ridiculousness of it all. If you do not like the fact that you cannot lob your attacks at me and other moderately minded Muslims in secrecy, perhaps you should just move away from this blog and stop reading it. It's really not intended for the close-minded anyways. The close-minded have enough of their own sites on the internet; I think they will do just fine without having unlimited access to mine.

It's really nothing more than their being upset about being powerless here. It's a power game for them. It always has been, and always will be.



Tuesday, May 12, 2009

No "Anonymous" comments on this blog, please.

Asalaamu Alaikam,

I would like to let everyone know that comments made by "Anonymous" people will not be published. You must create a user name. If your user name happens to be "Anonymous" then you should have something in your profile.

There will be no hiding of who you are here. Everyone will be upfront and straight forward with their identities.

As some people have noticed, there was a real issue with the "admin" of MuslimMomsCafe.com hiding her identity. That uneasy feeling that was experienced there will not be repeated here, inshAllah.

If you wish to have a voice here, you cannot comment as "Anonymous." This is out of respect for those sisters who have taken the time to create real user ID's and are not ashamed of who they are. This also encourages trust among each other. Reveal who you are.



omG. No such thing as a Salafi anymore! They are all Wahhabis!!

Asalaamu Alaikam,

Well, I have been reading a fascinating and illuminating book entitled "The Great Theft" by Khaled Abou El Fadl. This book speaks of the "puritan" movements in Islam and their direct conflict with the moderate Muslims (of whom, I am one). So far, the book has been confirming for me suspicions that I already had. Now, it has been opening my eyes to some very disturbing facts.

Khaled Abou El Fadl is a professor with the UCLA School of Law. He is a trained lawyer, as well as an Islamic jurist. The fact that he actually received a formal education in Islamic jurisprudence puts him ahead of many of the so-called "scholars" that are so highly regarded by "Salafis." The bulk of their "scholars" received no education in jurisprudence or hadith sciences, yet that doesn't stop them from issuing "fatwas" and rejecting hadiths and historic Islamic texts.

Anyways.......

A (very) brief history of Wahhabi Islam and how it overtook Salafi Islam.

Wahhabism was founded by Muhammad Ibn Abd ul Wahhab. Abd ul Wahhab was an ethno-centric Arab, who thought that Arab people were superior to all others. He also felt that the only "true Islam" was the version of Islam that was being practiced by the Bedouins of the Arabian peninsula. He thought that all other versions of Islam were deviations, and any deviation from the "true Islam" was heresy. Anyone who did not adhere to his narrow view of Islam was not a Muslim in his thinking, and therefore, should be dealt with in the harshest of manners (torture and death). Abd ul Wahhab waited until after his father's death before he started preaching his extreme form of Islam, out of fear of what his father may do to him.

Abd ul Wahhab felt that the Ottoman Turks (who were in control of the region at the time) were the greatest threat to Islam. He did not address any injustices that they were committing; he seemed to simply have a problem with the fact that they were not Arab. He did not embrace the universal teachings of Islam; teachings which tell us that an Arab is not superior to a non-Arab, nor is a non-Arab superior to an Arab (gosh, I wonder if he knew that this is actually in the Quran??).

Abd ul Wahhab's own brother, Sulayman Ibn Abd ul Wahhab was an educated Muslim jurist, and spoke out staunchly against his brother. Sulayman wrote a treatise detailing all the ways in which his brother's extreme thinking was against the teachings of Islam. This treatise is actually banned in Saudi Arabia.

Abd ul Wahhab adopted a very intolerant approach to anyone who differed with his thinking, and declared all who did so to be heretics or non-believers. The penalty for being a non-believer was death, and Abd ul Wahhab felt that it was in his right to execute these non-believers in an attempt to "purify" Islam. He felt that Muslims had strayed far away from the path of Islam, and the only way back was through his version of Islam.

Wahhabism spread through the Arabian peninsula (what is now Saudi Arabia) by the sword, literally. The Al Saud family supported this extreme form of Islam, and created the Ikhwan. The Ikhwan swept across the land, killing everyone who refused to convert to Wahhabism. They killed tens of thousands of innocent Muslims, and wiped out entire towns and villages. When they were done, just about the whole Arab peninsula was Wahhabi, simply due to the fact that they had killed anyone who dared not to be.

Through the Ikhwan and the support of the British government, Saudi Arabia was formed, with the Al Saud family in power. The Al Sauds chose Wahhabism to be the state religion, and the only acceptable form of Islam to be practiced in Saudi Arabia. All scholars had to adopt Wahhabi philosophy if they wanted to continue to have a job (and a life). Schools started teaching Wahhabi rhetoric, and before long, no other version of Islam was to be publicly seen in Saudi Arabia. What once was a land filled with Muslims from different walks of life and schools of thought, now became quite homogenous. There was only one accepted way to perform Hajj, and to try in any other way could mean death (the Ikhwan actually murdered pilgrims on the way to Hajj when they felt that they were doing things that were deviant, or not in Islam).

This was the "tolerance" of Wahhabism. Nice, eh?

Salafism grew completely on its own, and was much more tolerant. There was no hatred for all things Western or non-Muslim, for example. Scholars and Islamic jurists were to be respected, not reviled. The early Salafi scholars were actually trained in Islamic jurisprudence (unlike the Wahhabi "scholars" who were all uneducated), and studied the works of the different schools of thought. They felt that one should look into the other schools of thought for different approaches, and make their decision based on their findings. There was no wholesale rejection of anything that conflicted with their thinking (again, unlike the Wahhabis, who picked and chose what parts they wanted to follow). Salafism was a reformist movement, just like Wahhabism, but was not intolerant to other schools of thought or movements within Islam. All of this changed in the 1970's.

Sometime in the 1970's, Salafism was overtaken by Wahhabism. There had already been a gradual change in Salafi thinking, and they were becoming more and more intolerant, and less and less like their early scholars. In the 1970's the borders between the two movements blurred, and you could really say that the two became one. Wahhabis took to calling themselves "Salafi" since the term carried a more positive connotation, and they could use it to claim a legitimacy (claiming that they were following the "Salaf" or the companions of the Prophet saws and the two generations that followed). In essence, it was an attempt to "re-package" the Wahhabi image for the world.

Saudi Arabia was an oil rich nation by the 1970's, and had the resources to pour into the world-wide propagation of Wahhabism. Masjids and schools were created around the world, organizations were set up, and awards & grants were given to those who were willing to openly support and spread the Wahhabi rhetoric. Of course, this was all carried out in the name of "Salafism," and not "Wahhabism." Too many Muslims may recall the bloodshed by Wahhabis. It was safe to use the term Salafi; there were far less negative feelings toward Salafis.

The world is now overrun by people calling themselves "Salafi," who are in fact, Wahhabi. They condemn anyone who differs with them, and their message is filled with hatred. They hate non-Muslims, and ignore the fact that the Quran tells us to treat non-Muslims with respect. When they use an english translation of the meaning of the Quran, it is filled with rhetoric condemning non-Muslims (written by Hilali and Khan, neither of which were scholars; Khan was a medical doctor!). They will argue that this is the most accurate translation of the Quran. They will ignore the fact that much of the anti-non-muslim sentiments are in the form of additions in parenthesis because the words simply do not exist in the Quran. They will say that there is nothing wrong with them judging and condemning non-Muslims because Allah has supposedly said that this is okay (I am at a loss to find even a single verse in the Quran that supports this!!). They will misquote hadith, and claim that caliphs like Abu Bakr used torture against non-Muslims (this is unfounded, and there is no legitimate support for this, outside of the Wahabbi "scholars" claims).

And then there is the way that they treat their fellow Muslims. Some of us have been witness to their bullying in the masjids. When they stand up and publicly berate those they feel are not "praying correctly." Many of us have been victim to their narrow-minded interpretation of Islam, both in the real world and online. Few have been spared their hatred.

I think of how today they would probably still be killing us if they thought for a moment they could get away with it. Instead, they must make do with insulting and belittling us. They are nothing more than bullies, who would inflict the most damage possible on us, if only they could. They have pushed many away from Islam. They feel that it is their right to force their version of Islam onto the world, and if you don't like it, well, that's just too bad.

Please educate yourself about this movement and prepare yourself for any confrontations with them. I swear by Allah that the next time I see a woman in the masjid bully another woman, I will let her know that there is no place for her Wahhabi rhetoric. Islam is a religion of peace and tolerance, and there is no place for those who would inject our beautiful religion with the poison of hatred and intolerance. Debating with them is simply out of the question; they are so far from the path. But we can stand up against them, and keep them from taking over our masjids.

I felt for too long that I had no right to speak up. I let them make me feel like I was "just a revert" or that I had not been Muslim "long enough." I was wrong in allowing them to do this to me, and I swear that it will never happen again. I am done being afraid of what others will think of me. If an injustice is being done, and you see someone being harassed, you must stand up. It is your duty and obligation. Everything you ever learned about Islam being perfect and peaceful is true. The Wahhabis are misguided and in grave error. Stand up to them, and help those who have not yet found their voice.

Dear sisters, please share this post with your moderately-minded friends. Teach them the truth about Wahhabism, and the so-called "Salafis" of the West. They are vile. It's not that you are having a problem accepting their extreme form of Islam, and never should you feel that you are weak. They are vile.

May Allah guide us and protect us. Ameen,




Friday, May 01, 2009

My Journey to Islam

Asalaamu Alaikam,

I am a revert, that is, someone who has chosen to become Muslim. I was not raised as a Muslim. I have been Muslim for 6 yrs 8 months. People are always curious to know what led a person to Islam, so I decided to make a video about my journey to Islam.

My Journey to Islam




Muslim Mom's cafe: Tolerant and open-minded, or a Salafi hot-bed of hatred and intolerance? You be the judge.

Asalaamu Alaikam,

As many know, I have a serious beef now with a web-based forum called Muslim Mom's Cafe. First, I was suspended for a month, then their "mighty Admin" decided that it would only be a week (as if I would have any desire to go back to that site after the treatment I received?). Now, get this, I am banned indefinitely. Reason? "none specified." Nice.

I think I know the reason. It's this blog. What does this blog have to do with that website, you may ask. How can my freedom of speech and expression, exercised on my blog, have anything to do with the suspensions and bans on Muslim Mom's Cafe? Well, the two should be unconnected. I have done nothing offensive. I have merely spoken out about a group that is trying to take over Islam from the sensible, peace loving, moderately-minded Muslims who still count for the majority of Muslims worldwide.

Some of you may have seen the bullying comment that was made by a person on my first post about Muslim Mom's Cafe. Whereas I am not completely sure who it was (and even if I did know, I would not broadcast her name here, as that is backbiting), her tone is very familiar to me, as well as to others who have frequented the forum on Muslim Mom's Cafe. She knows who she is, and that's really all that matters.

I would like to take a moment to state one thing here: In no way am I attempting to rationalize or debate with the Salafis. It is completely pointless to do. They will not listen to anyone other than a fellow Salafi, and then they will only listen to the rhetoric of their so-called "scholars" and "sheikhs." It is a waste of my time and energy to engage them in any sort of Islamic debate. What I AM trying to do here is give caution to the other Muslims out there who may otherwise be tricked by the Salafis to adopt their ways. They are a people who have strayed from the path of Islam, and in no way do they embody the teachings of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (saws).

Salafi intolerance is what non-Muslims typically think of when they think of Islam. They see the wild and crazy things going on in countries like Saudi Arabia, and think that Islam must be an oppressive and intolerant religion. When countries like Saudi Arabia permit old men to marry little girls, and stand against the outlawing of such practices, how can a non-Muslim have a good view of Islam?? Saudi Arabia has also enforced a dress and social code for all women in the country, regardless of their religion. Whether she is Muslim, Christian, Jew, Hindu, or atheist, a woman in Saudi Arabia (even visiting!) is expected to dress head-to-toe in flowing black, covering her face and hands from men. If she does not do this, she should expect to be harassed by the "religion police." These men go around, looking for women who are "violating" Saudi Arabia's strict and oppressive laws. And they feel that they have the right to do whatever it takes to force a women to adhere to them.

In the time of the Prophet Muhammad (saws) and the caliphate that followed, non-Muslims' rights were protected. They were allowed to freely practice their religion, and no one was to oppress them, nor try to press them into behaving like "Muslims." The Quran even states the rights that they should have to practice their religion freely. We, as Muslims, do have the obligation of speaking to them about Islam (this is dawah, or "invitation"), but they are NOT to argue or insult them.

In the title of my blog I have quoted an ayah (verse) of the Quran: (Invite (all) to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious. Your Lord knows best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance. (An-Nahl 16:125).

To invite does not mean to force. When countries like Saudi Arabia force Muslim standards on non-Muslims, they are not inviting anyone to come to Islam. They are pushing people away. They are doing nothing more than giving people yet another reason to hate Islam, and to hate Muslims.

Does anyone know which Muslim community accounts for the largest amounts of Muslims in the world? Is it the Arabs? No. It's the Indonesians. Indonesia is home to the largest Muslim population in the world. How did so many Muslims end up there? Did hoards of Muslim Arabs settle there? No. Did an army invade, forcing Islam upon everyone? No. Some Muslim traders (something like only 3 or 5 people) from Arabia came to Indonesia, simply trading wares and interacting with the locals, giving respect and minding their own business. The people were so impressed with the behavior of these few men that they asked them, "what is your religion?" They replied, "we are Muslim." The people said, "will you teach us something of your religion?" The Muslim traders did, and Islam spread like wildfire across the chain of islands that are known as Indonesia. It was by simply being a good example that Islam spread.

These Muslim traders never judged or ridiculed the people. They never told them how they were all going to Hell unless they became Muslim. They simply lived simply and respectfully among them. It was the beauty of Islam that called the people to become Muslim. There was no harshness, only respect and beauty.

Yet, today we have groups like Salafis who are judging and ridiculing everyone who disagrees with them. They do their best to bully and push around not only non-Muslims, but also Muslims who are not Salafi (like myself!). They do this thinking that they are "defenders of the faith." I don't know which faith they are defending, but it is certainly not Islam. At least, not the Islam that I follow.

So, getting back to Muslim Mom's Cafe (you may have thought that I was off subject, but I was not). All the above that I have discussed, you will find staunch supporters on that forum. They will say that cforcing all women to wear burkha is wonderful, and judgment is within their right because they are close to the real Salaf (the first three generations after the Prophet Muhammad (saws). They will scream that people like me are trying to make halal what Allah has made haram (or, in "Salafi language": "make halaal what Allaah has made haraam." I love the double a's that they use every chance they get. That's usually the first sign that it's a Salafi you're dealing with!). I would never dare to do such a thing. Just as I would never dare to suggest that it's okay to judge a non-Muslim.

So, you be the judge (of the website, I mean, not the people, since as we have established, that is only Allah's right!).